Admittedly, at some point, everyone desires to be in a healthy loving relationship. However, not many understand what it takes to commit to such. These 10 Signs prove if you are in a happy relationship.
- You don’t depend on your partner for your happiness.
Happiness for you is intrinsic, you don’t need anyone’s intervention to be happy. Whether your partner is with you or not, you keep a happy face and your heart is glad.
- You and your partner love, but don’t need one another.
You share the love already within you and don’t need your partner to feel loved. This makes your relationship beautiful and easy to be in.
“The purpose of a relationship is not to have another who might complete you, but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.” ~ Neale Donald Walsch.
- You are more concerned with giving than you are with getting.
“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” ~ Anthony Robbins.
Offering a lot and not keeping score is the nature of both of you. You give because you are both overflowing with love. sharing your beautiful love feels right for you. You give freely and not expect anything in return.
- You don’t play games with each other.
You treat each other the way you expect to be treated, with love, honesty, respect and appreciation. There is no lying, cheating, manipulation, hiding, punishing and pretense in a healthy relationship.
“In a relationship, honesty and trust must exist. If they don’t, there’s no point of loving. So if you can’t afford, to be honest, stay single.” ~ Unknown.
- You are each other’s best friend.
Being in a healthy relationship means sharing your most intimate moments together. Your best and worst moments. In everything you do and don’t do you understand, love, and support each other, you get time to be there and listen to one another. Anytime one of you falls the other picks up without labeling, judging or criticizing why and what happened.
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche.
- You give each other the freedom to be yourselves unapologetically.
Unlike most people who like to ‘fix’, change or control the other person they are in a relationship with, you let each other be your true selves. This way, you encourage them to be their true selves, to live an authentic life free of any fears.
You don’t love one another for what you wish the other person can become but for who he/she truly is.
“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.” ~ Thomas Merton.
- You don’t try to control or cage one another.
You both understand that no one owns the other, therefore, everyone is free to do as they wish and follow their own path as long as their actions don’t hurt the other partner.
“Give the ones you love wings to fly, roots to come back and reasons to stay.” ~Dalai Lama.
- You are not attached to the “happily ever after” idea.
Even though you love each other dearly and wish to be together till the end of time, you are not naively attached to the ‘happily ever after fallacy’. You understand that life is full of surprises and if at some point you are forced to part ways then you will do it graciously do it without hurting or clinging to each other.
“Love liberates. It doesn’t just hold—that’s ego. Love liberates. It doesn’t bind. Love says, ‘I love you. I love you if you’re in China. I love you if you’re across town. I love you if you’re in Harlem. I love you. I would like to be near you. I’d like to have your arms around me. I’d like to hear your voice in my ear. But that’s not possible now, so I love you. Go.’” ~ Dr. Maya Angelou.
- You are each other’s ‘beautiful enemy’
You support and challenge each other by holding back and exposing the darkness in each of you. This is done compassionately and utmost respect for each other’s personal privacy.
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert.