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The Secret To Living A Good Life From The Longest Study On Happiness

Happiness is not guaranteed to any of us, because apparentlythe world is not a wish-granting factory. Material things, money, fame, wealth, and what not is what we have been chasing since the dawn of human civilization. Having a lot of money and being famous is the answer most people give when asked what they need to be happy. However, psychiatrist Robert J Waldinger disagrees with this concept that majority of people subscribe to.

 A Harvard College graduate, Waldinger who graduated with summa cum laude, and later became director of the longest-running studies on adult happiness with 724 men participating, the study has been ongoing for 75 years.

The study divided participants into two, those who were included when they were graduating from Harvard in 1930s and the second group is mainly composed of men from the same time who were troubled kids from Boston’s poor areas.

Psychological studies and research barely go for that long, but thanks to the generation of relentless academicians and participants who extended their cooperation every time it was solicited and remained in contact with researchers.

“The research centers on happiness! What makes us happy? What makes our lives full and keep our souls at peace” as Dr. Waldinger explains.

Robert says that the secret to happiness is found in the long lasting relationships we share with others in our lives. The research clearly indicates that men who had stronger, more wholesome and harmonious relationships with others are happier than those who don’t. Robert also adds that men in happy marital lives are happier and healthier. “Man is a social being who finds himself happier and in a better place emotionally and physically, when his need to be loved, validated and wanted are fulfilled.”

Isolated men or those who have fallen victim to loneliness are observed to be forever unhappy and dissatisfied. These men might be married but this might be a source of nothing but more emotional chaos if the marriage isn’t very harmonious.

Happiness is as a result of knowing that people around you will always have your back no matter what, but not being with people all the time.

All we need is love and a few kind words from the ones we love and not money that can solve all our problems as we tend to think.

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